starter essays (read in order, ~5 min each)
- "the difference between regulating and suppressing" — why feeling your feelings isn't an indulgence and what nervous-system regulation actually looks like in a tuesday afternoon.
- "anxious-attached doesn't mean broken" — what the attachment frameworks actually say (and what tiktok pretends they say).
- "the 90-second window" — why the first ninety seconds of a hard conversation determines the next ninety minutes, and how to repurpose them.
- "specific appreciation as a daily practice" — why "i love you" is too generic to be useful, and what to say instead.
short courses (3 days, 5 min each)
- communication ladder · day 1–3 — naming, validating, requesting. one practice each day.
- boundaries without the cringe · day 1–3 — what a boundary actually is, why "i feel" sentences are a script not a personality, and how to hold one without escalating.
- repair after rupture · day 1–3 — gottman's repair attempts, in plain english, with actual scripts.
- nervous-system reset · day 1–3 — three evidence-based techniques (4-7-8 breath, cold-water reset, somatic shake-down) and when each is the right one.
recommended elsewhere
we don't reinvent the wheel. when there's already a great resource, we point at it:
- esther perel · where should we begin? · for the adult-relationship arcs.
- therapy in a nutshell · youtube · for evidence-based, no-fluff explainers.
- heidi priebe · youtube · for attachment-style lit done well.
- the holistic psychologist · for inner-child + nervous-system work.
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